Breaking up with someone is incredibly difficult. Nothing makes sense when you feel like this and you fear the end of the world is near.

This is a terrible phase that everyone goes through at some point. My heart has been broken and mended just like anyone else’s. You learn to be solid and challenging, and you learn things about life that are very helpful.

“Moving on is easy. It’s staying moved on that’s trickier.”

― Katerina Stoykova Klemer

Here are a few stages of what everybody needs to get through; some take longer than others They say it takes half your relationship to get over it and move on, so if you have been with someone for a year, give it six months.

They will sometimes still be in the back of your mind depending on the seriousness of it, but soon you will be a new, different person with a brand new positive outlook on life.

1. Shock

It’s like having several clocks in one convenient package! I’m at a loss for how to pass the time, where to find what I need, what to eat, or how to fall asleep.

Absolutely nothing makes me happy any more… The inability to cry out of sheer despair is a common experience.

13 Stages To Dealing With Those Dreaded Break-Ups

2. Confusion

The capital letter W stands out clearly. For what reason did this occur? In what way have I messed up? How likely is it that this will resolve itself?

My life seems to have no purpose. Maybe it’s someone else now. When did things start to go south? Etc. There’s no way to finish this list. It’s frustrating that even your closest friends are sick of telling you that you did nothing wrong.

13 Stages To Dealing With Those Dreaded Break-Ups

3. Needing Answers

We all dig and investigate; let’s be honest, we do! It’s Facebook stalking time. Who have they added? Are they seeing someone?

And it’s a whole lot of were they cheating? Your brain is working super overtime at such a fast rate that if you put that amount of time into curing a disease or creating the following country, you will accomplish it!

Sometimes you are so desperate that you call, but it always ends in an argument, speaking into a voicemail, or the number is no longer connected…

The constant peeking at Facebook to see when the “YOU ARE SINGLE” Status appears because that is for real!

13 Stages To Dealing With Those Dreaded Break-Ups

4. Denial

You didn’t realize how much you looked at your phone. You did… You’re eager to contact him. You know his daily schedule and which classes he’ll miss when he’s with family.

Your fixation with checking for messages has resulted in roughly 500 messages from him to everyone else. You need the “goodnight, honey, I love you” SMS every night to fall asleep.

13 Stages To Dealing With Those Dreaded Break-Ups

5. Doubt / Self Loathing

You promise never to even look at another boy/girl again. You start being so mean to yourself that you think you’ll never find someone.

13 Stages To Dealing With Those Dreaded Break-Ups

6. Isolation

This seems to show some confusion. You don’t want to talk to anyone, even your friends, because you’re making them mad by talking about what happened so much. You stop going out to clubs and doing things that used to make you happy.

13 Stages To Dealing With Those Dreaded Break-Ups

7. Depression

During the first stage of a breakup, you cry – a lot. A whole fucking lot. You’re going to do nothing but lay in the middle of your bed and cry while your roommates are trying to watch E! News.

13 Stages To Dealing With Those Dreaded Break-Ups

8. Drunk Texting…/Calling

It’s never a good idea…. And when you don’t hear back or something bad happens, you either cry and go home, or… You end the night with a rebound hookup, which might not be the best idea.

13 Stages To Dealing With Those Dreaded Break-Ups

9. The Everything Is Ok Stage

Trying to forget and letting them know you’re fine. You’ve moved on and are having fun, but you’re really at home watching The Notebook and crying.

13 Stages To Dealing With Those Dreaded Break-Ups

10. Anger

You are tired of how you feel and look and don’t know who you are anymore. So you start to realize what great friends and family you have been pushing away, and you think it’s time to change and get out of this hole because he/she isn’t worth it anymore.

13 Stages To Dealing With Those Dreaded Break-Ups

Exercise/ Realise They’re Less Attractive

Then one day, you wake up and realize you’ll be fine. You run, run yourself to death, and then start something new.

People used to laugh at you or think you wouldn’t do certain things, but now you do them. You want them to see that you’re good-looking and moving on.

13 Stages To Dealing With Those Dreaded Break-Ups

12. Acceptance

When you wake up one morning, this happens out of the blue. You feel better, but you know that everything turned out well.

The last few weeks or months have given you great new opportunities and made you look at things through your own eyes instead of someone else’s.

13 Stages To Dealing With Those Dreaded Break-Ups

13. Moving On

You get butterflies for a new hunk or doll when you glimpse that bright, shiny light in a new direction. Stage 1 makes you wonder, why did I cry and fear my life was over when it was just beginning? Go ahead—you’re stronger than you think!

13 Stages To Dealing With Those Dreaded Break-Ups

“Every woman that finally figured out her worth, has picked up her suitcases of pride and boarded a flight to freedom, which landed in the valley of change.”

― Shannon L. Alder

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